, so far I have found it useful to use each person’s individual natal chart aspects, seeing if they have parallels or contra parallels natally.
For example, both people could have Uranus contra parallel Saturn in their birth chart, so although in synastry and composite charts, they may be viewed as a match made in proverbial hell, imagine chalk and cheese, in sandwich yuck.
On paper, they don’t have anything in common, but on the astrology- soul- consciousness level, they do; they are both off the wall (unique), go against tradition, and colour outside the lines.
You both need to make sure you are not rebelling just for the sake of it due to childhood experiences of being restricted by parents or other authority figures.
A relationship should be about two self-secure individuals coming together to create a better situation for themselves, both benefiting equally from the association.
The highest expression of the Uranus contra-parallel Saturn aspect is being comfortable in your skin, ignoring conforming to society or anyone else’s expectations.
Without spitting your dummy out the pram, as we say in the UK, acting out for the sake of it, imagine people who are nasty to the police just because they represent authority.
So every time they see a police person, they say something aggressive or, even worse, physical attack them.
This does not solve the core issues of prejudice and inequality in the legal system.
But it does get you a long record; the best way is to change the system from the inside out, thinking of ways you can legally work to bring about change in the legal and all other authoritative systems.
Two people with Saturn contra parallel Uranus may have many differences, but they have the same mindset and ideals, wanting to break free from conformity as their core personality trait.
Both seek independence and bring about change. Saturn’s influence can make the visions of Uranus reality by providing the discipline to do so.
Parallels and Contra Parallels can show you why two people stay together; why does a sun sign Capricorn stay with that sun in Pisces? Why does someone who has a “weak chart” overcome their life obstacles?
Why do them lover with perfect synastry fight all the time, as puff daddy, the Notorious BIG, Lox and lil Kim would sing it’s all about the contra parables and parallel baby!
Why when a transit report says you should have a good day, but it turns out to be not so good, the unexplainable can be explained by Parallels and Contra Parallels!!!!!
They can also help when you’re unsure about your birth time, and with chart rectification, the power of these small but big aspects is vast and helps with karmic, soul and other issues that you may be facing in your life.
. “As different as a moonbeam from lightning, or frost from fire.”
– Emily Bronte.
“If it’s true that opposites attract, I should be looking for someone that gets up early and does stuff.”
– Anonymous.*
“Opposites attract because they are alike. They are alike in that they are opposites.”
– Bashar.
References The Best of Charles Jayne (Paperback), Published by American Federation of Astrologers, United States, 2009, ISBN 10: 0866904492
Morrison, Richard James (Zadkiel) – 1861 – The Handbook of Astrology, Volume 1 and 2
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